Finn Deerhart


finn deerhartDate September 19th 2019

Finn Deerhart

I was born into a strict, Southern, religious home as a minister’s son. I also became a minister when I was 19 years old. I had a mission, but a message that was not my own. It took me many years to come out of the closet as a gay man, and even more years after that to begin the process of unraveling my core identity in order to rebuild myself authentically. I have struggled and triumphed in many ways because of significant guides and teachers I have encountered along my journey.

Now, sex and relationships are the lenses through which I am examining my own life, how I interact with my own deepest wounds, and how my personal vulnerabilities relate to my culture as a whole. Deeper intimacy with myself is guiding me into healthy relationships and exciting sex that reflects my personal quest for wholeness. Though I am no longer a formal minister, I care very deeply about how we hold space for healing within ourselves and for others who need connection.

When it comes to relationships, I believe that many of us are working against strong conditioning and faulty templates. I believe that we need help in addressing the challenges that we face in relationships. As we release blame and get really honest with ourselves, healing can occur. Transformation requires patience, practice, and a holistic understanding of the individual and relational challenges that you may be facing. As we uncover our personal truths, we also contribute to the collective healing for us all. I bring 14 years combined experience in social anthropology, wellness coaching, spiritual counseling, sex and intimacy coaching, and personal development to my client and couples practice.

I am a staffed practitioner for the Queer Couples Center in San Francisco.

Additionally, I am a writer of educational erotic content and onsite coach for Himeros TV, a subscription-based online service providing explicit content for queer men looking to find meaning in eroticism, strengthen erotic skills, and create a sense of loving, erotic, community with other men.

I am a weekly cohost for the Himeros Live Podcast, discussing Himeros film releases, personal journeys of cohosts and guests, and answering questions about sex and relationships from the public. Himeros Live can be heard on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and Google Play Store.

Sophia School of Living Arts, Austin, TX — EFT Practitioner & Counselor, 2017
Spencer Institute — Holistic Life Coach, 2013

Modern Sex Therapy Institutes, Sex Counselor, 2019–Present
University of Texas, Austin, Texas — BA, Social Anthropology, 2008
Southwest School of Bible Studies, Austin, TX — Minister’s License, 2001